Meaning of sex in marriage
The Meaning of Marriage Quotes by Timothy J. Keller(page 5 of 7)
Seriously, spend a bit of time with this question. In your answer you will discover the key to unlocking much more in this area of your life. We are all sexual beings. Our sexuality is intimately linked with the rest of our life. In fact, the two are intertwined. We may think we are compartmentalized beings: the work you, the home you, the friend you, etc.
Marriage requires sex. This seems to be the sine qua non of marriage even in a world where the definition of marriage has been broadened in ways never imagined even a generation ago., A sexless marriage is a marital union in which little or no sexual activity occurs between the two spouses. The definition of a non-sexual marriage is often broadened to include those where sexual intimacy occurs fewer than ten times per year, in which case 20 percent of the couples in the National Health and Social Life Survey would be in the category.
Marriage is a socially sanctioned long-term mating arrangement that typically involves economic, social, and reproductive cooperation between the partners. Although the norms that govern selection of a marriage partner and the customs surrounding the marriage ceremony vary from culture to culture, all known human societies practice and endorse this type of long-term pairing Daly and Wilson ; Goodwin Marriage and sexuality share an intimate and universal connection: Across cultures, marriage represents the most socially accepted, legitimate context for sexual intercourse. It is important to recognize that most research on marital and other types of sexuality has been conducted with participants from industrialized western European particularly North American societies. There have been relatively few empirical investigations of marital sexual attitudes. However, several general conclusions can be gleaned from the available literature.
Sex means different things to different people, and what it means to you might be having a big effect on your relationship. I've been counseling individuals and couples for many years. More than half the time, when couples are having problems or the relationship is dissolving, sex is one of the major issues. There are a number of common scenarios:. One partner has clearly stated that he or she is no longer available for sex. The partner states that he or she feels used, and is no longer willing to tolerate this. The other partner is angry and hurt by this.
Also, if you want to catch a glimpse of some of the chewy morsels from this book, please check out the other chapter reviews! You can easily navigate to them via the buttons at the bottom of this page! Keller opens with this verse for this chapter on sex because it is the foundation of how God designed the sexual relationship to be — between a husband and his wife, where the intimate act of sex unites them as one flesh. It is a beautiful depiction of independence of other relationships such as parents and an interdependency on another, a spouse. Light is shed on the different perspectives culture has had on sex throughout history, ranging from a natural appetite to an evil deed necessary to continue the human race. Because we are sinful beings, our view of sex can be distorted, especially when our sinful hearts desire sex for selfish reasons. Sin, which is first and foremost a disorder of the heart, therefore has a big impact on sex.